I've been meaning to write this post for a while. In fact, I put it into my drafts folder well over a month ago (maybe even three months ago, I don't seem to keep track of time all that well these days), and it's just sat there, staring at me every time I open my blog dashboard, begging to be written. My heart has so much to say on the topic of self care, (mostly that I'm no good at it), but I feel a bit like a fraud even trying to conquer such a fleeting concept and hot topic amongst young creatives and women today.
And I guess it's ironic that it's taken me so long to find the time to sit and process and really write this out. Because in a way, this post about the importance of caring for oneself is a form of self care for me, yet it's taken me months to do it.
I'm not 100% sure why the idea of caring for myself is so hard for me; or why it's so hard for so many of us, for that matter. I think there's a feeling of selfishness associated with taking care of ourselves, or with taking time to do something to get that sought-after "me time". We carry the banner of being modern superwomen, and we hold it together and make it look so easy, but then when our eyes close at night, we're exhausted in every sense of the word.
We fill our days with work and school and managing our online lives and blogs and shops, and then pile that onto taking care of our marriages and families, and by the end of it all, there's nothing left. Nothing left in the way of time and nothing left in the way of energy. There are so many days that I fall into bed at midnight, exhausted from living my energizer-bunny lifestyle since 7:30 that morning, and set my alarm to get up and do it all again the next day.
And yet we get up each day ready to do it all again, drained before the day even begins.
But you know what? I'm tired. I'm tired of having so much running through my mind that even my sleep is often plagued with dreams about forgetting things on my to-do list. I'm tired of watching women stand strong while their souls are weary.
Self care looks differently for each of us. For some, it's hitting the pavement and going for a run and for others, it's stealing away for a manicure. Whatever it is for you, it's important, so stop telling yourself that you don't deserve it. 1 Corinthians 3:16 says "Do you not know that you are God's temple and that God's Spirit dwells in you?" If we truly believe that, then why aren't we taking care of ourselves, friends?
Christ didn't sacrifice everything for us to fill our lives with schedules that leave us broken and tired and weary. While He never promised this life would be easy, or safe, I also don't think He intended for us to treat it like a marathon that we have to run at a sprint pace until we collapse from exhaustion.
There's no shame or guilt in saying "It's too much" and taking some time for you. When all that you're living for (and I hope, sister, that it's Christ first and foremost, but beyond that, I'm talking here about your job, kids, creative outlets, marriage, relationship, school, etc.) begins to drain you and pull you under, then it's time to step back.
Let's be women who boldly declare peace and wellness in our own lives.
Let's be women who realize the value of taking care of ourselves so that we can better take care of the people and things that we love.
Let's be women who shrug off the guilt and aren't afraid to say that taking care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually is important.
And finally, let's be women who leave behind weary in exchange for worth.
